I use the Seventh Generation brand laundry soap and fabric softener and really like it.

METHOD AT TARGET, 7TH GENERATION AT TARGET, WHOLE FOODS MARKET, WILD OATS MARKET, AND MOST OTHER GROCERY STORES

I always use Seventh Generation too, they have really great products. I usually buy them at Elephany Pharm, but you can get them at a lot of different stores like Target and Whole Foods.

Humboldt has a great alternative technology resource (CCAT). Here is a project page... check non-toxic household for alternatives to bleach and for fabric softener involving combinations of borax, lemon juice, and vinegar.

http://www.humboldt.edu/~ccat/drupal-5/?q=node/9

I use Seventh Generation products I buy from my local health food store. I love them.

I would recommend any of the following:
1. Homemade mixes (lots of recipes are out there)
2. Seventh Generation
3. Method
There are lots of great choices at Target, Trader Joe's, Whole Foods, Wegmann's, as well as local health food stores.

hi! i posted a few things on green cleaning in Minimal Harm (my group):

http://teamsugar.com/group/422515/blog/498860
http://teamsugar.com/group/422515/blog/1510678
http://teamsugar.com/group/422515/blog/523719