I’ve read/heard that women can achieve different types of orgasms (clitoral and vaginal). I’d never really thought much about this and I enjoy a healthy sex life with my boyfriend. However, I’ve recently become friends with a group of girls at work and this subject came up. My boyfriend is able to give me orgasms, which are great, but never through sex. He is the only the third man I have ever been with so I am pretty inexperienced. One girl at work in particular has mentioned that she definitely believes there is a difference, and that vaginal orgasms are significantly more satisfying. She even called clitoral orgasms ‘immature’, amongst other things, and the other girls all seemed to agree.
I would like to know from other women, who are more experienced, if they think there is a difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms too, and if so, is one really all that better? I guess my follow up question is, (depending on the answer to the first question) do you have any suggestions or tips to share so I can try to have a vaginal orgasm?
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This is a repeat of a question from about a month ago which I already commented on. Early sex researchers (I believe the ones at Kinsey institute) thought that there may have been 2 different types of orgasms for women, with the clitoral one being 'immature.' This is not the case, and most women achieve orgasm through clitoral stimuation (and perhaps another type of stimulation, such as intercourse, at the same time). Few women can achieve orgasm from intercourse alone, it just is not the way our bodies our set up. This is why most women masturbate and orgasm mainly from clitoral stimulation. I think the myth about the clitoral orgasm being 'immature' was perpetuated to make women and men feel that womens enjoyment of sex with men was more 'mature' because it is more pleasurable for men to just have intercourse instead of working to satisfy his partner through other means. It also was perpetuated because of a general scientific and social ignorance regarding womens bodies and sexuality. It made women think that there was somehow something wrong with them if they could not orgasm through intercourse alone. As I said earlier, the vast majority of women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. I think that what your friends were referring to was orgasming through intercourse or from G spot stimulation. Some women find that oragasming while their partner is inside of them or stimulating the inside of them to be more sexually satisfying, while others feel that an orgasm feels the same either way. So, scientifically speaking, there is no difference. An orgasm is the same physiological response no matter how the woman achieved it, vaginally or clitorally. I would suggest that you study or read a book or research this subject if you are interested in your sexuality.
In my personal experience, I found that it took me some time to learn how to orgasm from sex with a partner. For me, as for many women, this involves clitoral stimulation during and throughout intercourse. I would suggest you rub your clit the whole time you are having sex with your partner, or use a toy such as a vibrating egg. If you want to try to have a G spot orgasm, then I think your best bet would be to first buy a banana shaped vibrater, which will stimulate your G spot, with a clitoral attachment to stimulate your clit at the same time. BTW, the G spot is actually just the top of the nerve of the clitoris, which runs up and inside of your body (it is the same with men, the base of their penis runs inside their body, which ends at the prostate gland). Overall, there is nothing wrong with you, you just need to learn more about your body in order to discover more pleasure. Good luck, use protection and have fun.